With Father’s day having passed quite recently I have been
a witness to the global masculinisation of mothers (who have looked after
children in the absence of male figures in the home) on social media. ‘Happy
Father’s day to all the men who took care of their responsibilities as well as
any women that had to be both a mother and a father,’ said one of my online
contacts. I, personally, found this to be extremely offensive to men all around
the world. The one day that has been set aside for the celebration of their
efforts to provide for and be there for their children has to now be shared
with women. Please bear in mind that we have never seen this happen the other
way around, i.e. men being hailed as queens on Mother’s Day despite the fact
that there are many single fathers raising children on their own.
It seems as though the world (with the exception of some
of the more traditional societies) has become so civilised that it has lost any
respect or need for fathers and men, the very group of people who fought in
battles to either obtain or retain any form of freedom the same people now
enjoy. This is total disregard for the idiom that says, ‘do not bite the hand
that feeds you.’ In the quest to settle
gender scores, it seems that popular culture has accomplished a secondary
objective which is to emasculate and dishonour men. In movies, cartoons (i.e.
Peppa Pig, The Simpsons and Family Guy) and even series (e.g. Modern Family)
men are continuously depicted as being silly, unreasonable and poor
decision-makers whilst their spouses are depicted as intelligent and sharp - keeping
things in order.
Such imagery has served to destroy the self-confidence and
self-assertion of the modern man to the delight of many women. Women delight in
the fact that men no longer seek to lead them in patriarchy and are now beneath
them. Beneath them you ask? Why yes, men are still expected to romance ladies,
protect them from danger, keep them entertained, etc. at their own expense by
women who earn just as much, if not more than them. Women have sent the message
‘WE DO NOT NEED YOU’ to men and they
have received it and modified their attitudes to dealing with women. You see
men rise to meet the demands/responsibilities placed upon them. With absolutely
no expectations being required of men, it is no wonder they feel as though they
are winning in this ‘down-with-patriarchy’ existence. Men have realised that they
can get conjugal benefits without giving any real commitment to women and have
resorted to a life of pursuing their pleasures which include the acquisition of
nice cars and fancy toys.
Resultantly, marriage and fertility rates have lowered
dramatically compared to historical times and it is largely because men are not
interested in having wives and children (look up the statistics if you think it
is a light matter). They have been reduced to a biological function – they are
not needed for anything else and they will not play that game it seems. Men are
no longer incentivised to be the very people responsible for much of the
civilisation we enjoy. Can you imagine what industrial revolution we would have
today if men had not invented all that they have invented, or built the
superstructures they have built etc. yet that is where we are now. What does
the future hold for this patriarchy-hating society? What successful society has
thrived without esteeming men as leaders and providers of communities? It seems
that this emasculation of the modern man is an action that lacks much
foresight.
Ladies your own sons are going to grow to feel as unwanted
in the same society you are very happy to build. They will live as second class
citizens in the future as their fathers also live in have the mental stresses
that arise as a result of feeling inadequate. They will be hounded for child
support and kept from their children; you might not see your own grandchildren-
that is if these little boys ever grow up wanting to have children of their
own.
I feel that if we want to have a future as a civilisation
then we need to masculinise our men or at least not persecute them for being so
already. And yes the men must also lead out of selflessness, not looking to
take advantage of the people they are charged to lead and protect. We will
explore this in another post.
Until then, let us share, let us grow.
‘Men’s roles are not limited to biological functions but also to
the social, moral and educational value that they bring’ - @Africanindiaspo
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