Off the bat I must ask the questions, who recorded that video and why?
How did it go from the device it was recorded on to being viral? There were two
adult women who were present in that predicament and one of them recorded the
debased ordeal. I find that disgusting and that should be more shocking to
everyone who watches the video than any behaviour that the child displayed.
I believe that a child’s behaviour is mostly reflective of the
upbringing and instruction he/she has had. Of course children are innately mischievous
and that cannot be helped but not to the extent displayed by that little boy.
Did anyone notice that as he was cursing out (and having his little tantrum) he
was actually playing on an iPhone? I have found this to be a common trend amongst
both African and British parents here in the UK - that is to give their
children unfettered access to the internet. The diaspora-born child of your typical
@Africanindiaspo is bombarded with sexual images from birth on TV and hears all
sorts of explicit words in public, to give them unrestricted access to the
internet at a tender age is to pour fuel to the fire. That means pornography and
even more debased language is a click of a button away and many parents are
making this mistake. I do not believe it is intentional but it is being made
all the same. The problem is exacerbated by the fact that many @Africanindiaspo
parents do not sit down with their kids to find out what is going on in their
minds so they can deconstruct any build-up of western beliefs or ideas. Your
typical @Africanindiaspo actually raises their child as though they were in
Africa where there is very little swearing and sexualisation of men and women
in the mainstream media and society. It is no wonder that even our religious
beliefs are no longer palatable to children being born and raised in the
diaspora, we are not taking the time to find out where they are at.
Another weird but prevalent phenomenon common amongst many of the
@Africanindiaspo is this deep-seeded inferiority complex whereby many African
parents are really proud to have their kids as removed from African culture as
possible. Many love the fact that their child cannot speak their native
language (which they never bothered to teach the child) and are even more
elated to say things like ‘my child is the only black child at his/her school’.
No word of a lie. It is no wonder then that children such as that young boy end
up saying they have no affiliations with the motherland as they identify it as
archaic and disease-ridden - just as the propagandised images show Africa to be.
There are serious conflicting thoughts going on in the minds of
descendants of any @Africanindiaspo. At one juncture they are exposed to
African values and culture with relatives and within religious communities which
their parents do not teach them to value on a daily basis, at another juncture
they are exposed to extreme Western ideologies and behaviours on a more
consistent basis (i.e. in school and with friends) which their parents do not
want them to fully adapt once more. It seems the Western ways typically prevail
as these kids end up being more extreme than their Western counterparts due to
their desperate need to receive approval within at least one group of people.
@Africanindiaspo parents end up extremely disillusioned as their children
become rebellious and they genuinely wonder why.
I must express this to my beloved @Africanindiaspo brothers and sisters
living in the UK - if it possible for you to pay a little more in rental premiums
or spend more on a mortgage to live in a safer neighbourhood then please do so
if you have children. Whilst high-density urban areas in Africa are populated
with well-mannered and responsible people, in the UK areas with cheaper
accommodation are often populated with rough and substance-abusing individuals who
often raise poor-mannered children which will inevitably school with your
children and possibly be their friends.
Now this is where I turn into a chauvinist I suppose by asking where is
the father of this boy? Where are the fathers of many of the children of
@Africanindiaspo mothers? It seems many of my beloved sisters have traded the
truth that ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ for the lie that ‘girls run
the world’. Sisters you cannot raise children, especially sons, without the
presence of a male authoritarian figure. As a child growing up whenever I
misbehaved my mother would say ‘I am going to tell your father’, and that would
calm me right down. In the absence of a father, sisters please have brothers in
your lives to have that influence over your sons and daughters. It will do more
good than harm.
Finally, to the woman who called the ordeal with that child nonsense,
you are the problem with children growing up in the diaspora. You did not
diffuse the situation, you worsened it and you are the reason many children are
embittered with their parents.
Until next time beloved, let us share, let us grow.
‘Children’s behaviours
and attitudes are like mirrors that reflect the investment or lack thereof made
into their lives by those charged with their guardianship’ - @Africanindiaspo
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