Why do black women hate that black men can be attracted to women of other races?

I am a big fan of music. I mean love music from all cultures and walks of life; any tune with good instrumentation, good melodies and decent lyrics gets thumbs up from me. So the other day I was on YouTube bumping some Naija tunes (shout out to all my Naija @Africanindiaspos) whilst at work when the autoplay function on YouTube brought on some P-Square. Yes like Rick Ross I be bumping P-Square – Bawse. I digress as usual. Moving on, two P-Square songs that I was particularly intrigued by were ‘Collabo’ and ‘Taste the money’. Since I enjoyed the songs I figured I would watch the videos during my lunch break which I did and all of us know that when you watch anything online you have to check the comments to find out what people are saying/thinking and I was startled by some of the comments.

 

The comments that startled me were all from black women. Whilst everyone else enjoyed the music and found the videos to be ‘modern’ it seems that quite a few black dark-skinned women felt the need to express their disgust at the choice of girls depicted in the P-Square music videos. As we all probably know music videos typically have lead people in them (apart from the artists) and they may be men or women. In the ‘Taste the money’ video the lead girl was a white blonde lady and this triggered some serious backlash from our sisters. One lady in particular said, ‘This is the kind of video I hate. These guys come from a country where they probably saw poverty's dammages. Now that they got money, they make videos where they show how rich they are and where they have fun with white girls like lol, like white people had finally accepted them as equal because of their money.. Lol’. This was not the only comment of this nature in the comments section and one might be tempted to think that these women are correct in saying that P-Square have no right to be involving white women in their videos when they could be promoting black beauty. However, that is not what these dark-skinned women want. I soon discovered that by watching the ‘Collabo’ video in which the lead girl was a black woman.

Whilst some of the black women were simultaneously criticizing the song and expressing their joy at the fact that P-Square at least had a black girl as a lead, other black women were still saying that P-Square should have gone for a darker-skinned even more beautiful girl. One woman even spitefully called P-Square ugly which is quite ironic. If you call a dark individual ugly based on their skin tone how can you expect them to be attracted to dark women and even further than that how can you expect them to want to have dark-skinned ugly children who look like them? I ask too many questions but perhaps it is because people spew too much garbage.

It seems to me that black dark-skinned women who behave in such a way and call themselves ‘Mama Africa’, the pillars of black families are not as strong and as loving as they purport themselves to be. It seems, rather, that they are weak-minded (I am not talking about Monday to Friday) and controlling to the extent that they feel that the depiction of any other group of women as beautiful would render them ugly and displace them in beauty/dating pool. So to stop that from happening they make it their mission to bash down their own brothers (for having any interest in any other group of women) whilst they are wearing weave to look like the very women they despise – white/biracial/Brazilian women.

Let us not forget that P-Square has numerous other music videos in which the lead girls are black and that Peter and Paul Okoye are both married to a black women but that does not seem to matter to some of my dear sisters. They still want to rule every part of the black existence and that makes me wonder, ‘how are black men supposed to become more attracted to black women with such characters?’ Here I go again asking too many questions, but it is true though that this and many other character flaws serve to drive black men into the arms of women of other races. My sisters please know this that many of you are very beautiful and I have a black partner myself and would not have it any other way. However, please do not force us to see that you are pretty. Instead let your character and virtues draw us to you and trust me no one will be able to compete with you.

I have not seen black men act in the same manner of bashing down black women for their interests in other races and yet many black women still seem to love us. That is despite what we see on YouTube which is black women flaunting their white love interests or knowing that some of the most beautiful and prominent black women such as Maya Angelou, Diana Ross, Whoopi Goldberg, Sanaa Lathan, Kerry Washington, Heather Headley (the list goes on) are married to have been married to white men. Whoopi Goldberg has even been married to white men 3 times.

My sisters do not look for validation on white-owned media. Switch off your televisions and be yourselves and please do not be hypocrites about an individual’s preference of skin tone or race. I remember once as young man going to a party with a light-skinned friend of mine and having dark-skinned women totally disregard me whilst acknowledging my buddy as eye-candy. It cut me deep, cut me like surgery with no anesthesia and for a time I wanted to be light skinned until I realised that hey ‘I’ve got a lovable personality and that is way better than being fair or white with no personality’.

My precious sisters your character should be so great that when a brother goes for someone of a different race, you shouldn’t feel the need to bash them but to rather pity them for missing out on a great mate like yourselves.

                                                                                                                                

Until next time, let us share let us grow.

‘Race should not pervade the discussion of love or choice of a mate for love is not about colour but character’ - @Africanindiaspo