The comments that startled me were all from black women. Whilst
everyone else enjoyed the music and found the videos to be ‘modern’ it seems
that quite a few black dark-skinned women felt the need to express their
disgust at the choice of girls depicted in the P-Square music videos. As we all
probably know music videos typically have lead people in them (apart from the
artists) and they may be men or women. In the ‘Taste the money’ video the lead girl was a white blonde lady and
this triggered some serious backlash from our sisters. One lady in particular
said, ‘This
is the kind of video I hate. These guys come from a country where they probably
saw poverty's dammages. Now that they got money, they make videos where they
show how rich they are and where they have fun with white girls like lol, like
white people had finally accepted them as equal because of their money.. Lol’. This was not
the only comment of this nature in the comments section and one might be
tempted to think that these women are correct in saying that P-Square have no
right to be involving white women in their videos when they could be promoting
black beauty. However, that is not what these dark-skinned women want. I soon
discovered that by watching the ‘Collabo’
video in which the lead girl was a black woman.
Whilst
some of the black women were simultaneously criticizing the song and expressing
their joy at the fact that P-Square at least had a black girl as a lead, other
black women were still saying that P-Square should have gone for a
darker-skinned even more beautiful girl. One woman even spitefully called
P-Square ugly which is quite ironic. If you call a dark individual ugly based
on their skin tone how can you expect them to be attracted to dark women and
even further than that how can you expect them to want to have dark-skinned
ugly children who look like them? I ask too many questions but perhaps it is
because people spew too much garbage.
It
seems to me that black dark-skinned women who behave in such a way and call
themselves ‘Mama Africa’, the pillars of black families are not as strong and
as loving as they purport themselves to be. It seems, rather, that they are
weak-minded (I am not talking about Monday to Friday) and controlling to the
extent that they feel that the depiction of any other group of women as
beautiful would render them ugly and displace them in beauty/dating pool. So to
stop that from happening they make it their mission to bash down their own brothers
(for having any interest in any other group of women) whilst they are wearing weave
to look like the very women they despise – white/biracial/Brazilian women.
Let
us not forget that P-Square has numerous other music videos in which the lead
girls are black and that Peter and Paul Okoye are both married to a black women
but that does not seem to matter to some of my dear sisters. They still want to
rule every part of the black existence and that makes me wonder, ‘how are black
men supposed to become more attracted to black women with such characters?’
Here I go again asking too many questions, but it is true though that this and
many other character flaws serve to drive black men into the arms of women of
other races. My sisters please know this that many of you are very beautiful
and I have a black partner myself and would not have it any other way. However,
please do not force us to see that you are pretty. Instead let your character and
virtues draw us to you and trust me no one will be able to compete with you.
I
have not seen black men act in the same manner of bashing down black women for
their interests in other races and yet many black women still seem to love us.
That is despite what we see on YouTube which is black women flaunting their
white love interests or knowing that some of the most beautiful and prominent
black women such as Maya Angelou, Diana Ross, Whoopi Goldberg, Sanaa Lathan,
Kerry Washington, Heather Headley (the list goes on) are married to have been
married to white men. Whoopi Goldberg has even been married to white men 3
times.
My
sisters do not look for validation on white-owned media. Switch off your
televisions and be yourselves and please do not be hypocrites about an
individual’s preference of skin tone or race. I remember once as young man
going to a party with a light-skinned friend of mine and having dark-skinned women
totally disregard me whilst acknowledging my buddy as eye-candy. It
cut me deep, cut me like surgery with no anesthesia and for a time I
wanted to be light skinned until I realised that hey ‘I’ve
got a lovable personality and that is way better than being fair or white with
no personality’.
My
precious sisters your character should be so great that when a brother goes for
someone of a different race, you shouldn’t feel the need to bash them but to
rather pity them for missing out on a great mate like yourselves.
Until
next time, let us share let us grow.
‘Race should not
pervade the discussion of love or choice of a mate for love is not about colour but character’ - @Africanindiaspo